FAMILIES AND MARRIAGE

Enduring Marriage

A Couple’s Interview on Marriage

I interviewed a couple of names, Alice, and Daniel. They have been married for 54 years. The main concern for interviewing them was to find out what they consider to be the pillars of making their marriage successful. This essay highlights the essential points that make their marriage successful.

 The first thing they told me was that they have learned to disagree and agree, which means that it is not possible for two people to always agree on all issues. However, the most essential thing is for a couple to accept that it is okay for the two of them to have different opinions on some issues. The second aspect that has made their marriage successful is the aspects of truth and honesty. They say that these two virtues have enabled their marriage to last for this long time. Daniel mentions that he came to the understanding that learning to each other can complicate relationship and worse still lead to divorce. He added that he learned from his parents that lies do certainly lead to separation in a family.

A third aspect that Alice pointed out is that their relationship has lasted for a long time because of good communication. She stated that a wife and husband should always communicate in the right manner so as to strengthen their relationship. They also mentioned that mutual understanding and respect for one another is a vital aspect of making a successful marriage. They stated that sharing feelings and be involved in solving problems as a couple is aspects that define a good relationship. There should be no misunderstanding or doubt between the couples. They pointed out that getting help from each other is more of a better solution than seeking help from outsiders since it keeps the relationship running.

 The couple also pointed out that making compromises is an element that defines their long term marriage. Compromises involve considering the opinion of the other one and agreeing to their wishes wholeheartedly. They should also engage in making decisions and seeking the opinion of each other since people do not always make the right decisions. An obligation can be from one of them and so to make a better and wiser decision, they both have to work together. In critical situations, they have found themselves making compromises of helping one another and lowering their tone. They have also compromised in helping each other out on aspects like parenting duties and household chaos on a daily basis. They have also learned to cope with major changes in life by remaining positive in all situations and having a high spiritual thinking.

            This interview has enabled me to learn much about the couple and what makes a successful and long lasting marriage. First are the factors of successful marriage which are respecting one another, making compromises. There is also need for cooperation in aspects of parenting and household requirements. Another crucial aspect of a successful marriage from this interview is the aspect of acknowledging opposing viewpoints, communication and showing mutual respect and understanding towards one another. They should involve one another in decision making. Thus I aim to use these aspects not just to provide marriage counseling but to apply them in my real life when I decide to settle down in marriage.

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